I just finished reading a post from Steve Aitchison titled What Are Your Eyes Giving Away?
Here are some things that Steve points out to look for when you trying to see if that girl is really interested in you.
1) The Pupils – Pupils dilate or constrict depending your state of mind. This is one thing that us humans really don’t have control over. Mostly because we don’t even notice that we are doing anything. It’s just natural. When humans are aroused, their pupils will dilate. In layman’s terms, this means that the black part of the eye gets larger. This is the same effect from trying to adjust to the dark. So watching her pupils, specifically dilating or constricting, is a very helpful tool. From topic to topic, watch her pupils. If they dilate, keep going. If her pupils seem to contract, then change subjects because this conversation is not helping you. If her pupils are constantly constricted then you should move on, because it’s probably not your conversations that is turning her off. It’s probably you. Beware, if you are in a low-lit area because her pupils might be dilated simply because it’s too dark. Keep this in mind because catching the wrong signals could end like this.
2) Her eyes are talking too – Contrary to popular belief, and FOX TV visionaries, you can not always tell if people are lying just by where they are looking when they speak to you. But you can get a general idea of what they are thinking. Here are some things to look for when you conversing with the ladies.
- If she’s looking up, and to her left – This is referred to as Visual Construction (VC). This shows that she is providing information from her imagination, and is possibly making it up.
- If she’s looking up, and to her right – This is labeled as Visual Remembering (VR). This is done when she is trying to access a memory in her head and trying to picture it. She’s usually not making up stories while looking this way.
- If she’s keeping eye level, looking to her left – Auditory Construction (AC) is done when they are trying to construct a sound in her mind. This is a fictional sound that has not been verified yet.
- If she’s keeping eye level, looking to her right – Auditory Remembering (AR) is shown when she is trying to remember a sound that she has heard before.
- If she’s looking down, and to her left – This is labeled as Kinesthetic (K). She may look this way when she is accessing her actual feelings about a topic.
- If she’s looking down, and to her right – This is called Auditory Digital (AD), and is the direction she may be looking if she is talking to herself. In her head she may be asking herself a question about you, or the topic at hand.
These are obviously just general rules and doesn’t apply to every situation. But it is a good guide to use to help you in most situations. If you can get a feel for who you are talking to, you can make sound decisions on how to capitalize, or avoid, certain situations.
