Blue balls are definitely nothing to smile about.

OK class. The last time we talked, we discussed the point of life. I informed you that I believe the purpose of our lives is to be just be happy. Nobody can say for certain, one way or the other, that we have a higher purpose while we are here on Earth. We have no proof as to what will be become of us after we die simply because we are all still alive and don’t know what the future holds, specifically the after-life. If you didn’t read Life Part I, please catch up, we can wait.

Now, if we are all on the same page, let’s continue.

Sir Issac Newton taught us that, ”To every action there is always an equal and opposite reaction: or the forces of two bodies on each other are always equal and are directed in opposite directions.” I can relate this to our lives just as easily as Newton stated it. Think about this. Everytime something good happens for you, it was done by some sort of sacrifice from another, and visa versa. If I give you an apple (keeping with the Newton theme here), you benefit from it. However, I suffer because I just lost an apple. And boy do I love apples, so now I’m pissed too. Imagine a imaginary line on the ground. You and a friend are both on the line sitting in rollie-chairs (yes, that is the technical term). You both hold you hands up and push of of either with the same amount of force. As one of you moves farther and farther into the happy side, the other falls deeper and deeper into the unhappy side.  That was a cheap illustration, but this stands true for anything.  It’s almost what this entire world is built from.

If you are hungry, you buy food to eat. Eating makes your hunger subside, however, your wallet suffers from the food that was purchased. Bernie Madeoff became a rich man very quickly which I’m sure made him very happy. However, it came at the expense of other people. Ironically, I’m sure he’s not so thrilled to go to prison. However, his roommate, known as “Big D”, is having a field-day with it. So if we can point out the gains and the sacrifices in just about everything life has to offer, it’s not hard to imagine that this theory applies to happiness too. So it’s safe to say that for everything good that happens, there is some sort of suffering. It is not hard to fathom that everybody cannot all be happy at all times.

Let me play devil’s advocate for a second, and suggest that the level of happiness is spread evenly throughout the population. Meaning, every single person spend half their time being happy (while others are suffering), and half their time suffering (while those others are happy). Sure you can go with that if you want. If your stupid. Like I’ve stated before, I’m a heartless bastard, so I can’t see it that way. I’ll explain why in Part III.

In Life Part I, I talked about the difference between being truly happy and just finding things to make you happy. Having a family is something that makes you truly happy. Winning the fantasy football league at work and picking up $50 will only just make you happy. After the money is gone, that happiness goes too. It’s safe to say that sometimes others’ happiness will inevitably knock us flat on our asses. This is a sacrifice that one has to make when weighing their happiness against someone else’s. This is why it’s impossible for us to all be happy at all times. And this is why I believe that some people are not meant to be truly happy. I guess you can say it’s just not in the cards.

“I carry the type of anger you can’t solve with a gun
But ironically the pain can be eliminated by one

I’m told to live each day like its my last
‘Life’s too short son, it goes too fast’

Not saying I don’t believe it but the difference between us
When I live it like my last, I wish it really was

Stuck in a court of law without a single alibi
Cause I forgot the reason why god kept me alive

I fucked my life up and I mean it when I’m saying it
I’ll never make my bed again but always have to lay in it

I used to be proud of the fact that I had a family
Now I look back and wonder will I ever be that happy

I know I don’t deserve it, I brought it on myself
Guess I’ll just live for my daughter, my happiness on a shelf.”

Understand, it’s possible for someone to be happy without being truly happy. You could meet the most tormented person in the world and never know it. Some people find things to fill their happiness void. Other people are good at hiding it. This song reminds me of that.

Smile – Alchemist ft. Twista and Maxwell.

So, by now you’re either buying into this or you already had enough of my crazy jargon. Either way, you’re probably cursing at the screen asking me, “What are those people supposed to do who are never going to be truly happy?” That’s a great question. I will answer that in “Life Part III – Is it worth sacrificing your happiness to assure others are happy?”

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