Right off the heels of another related posts “When to Breakup With Your Girlfriend” women can be a pain, and hard to deal with, but on the same token provide us with incredible joy and can reveal the world in a whole different light. One of the big challenges guys go through with long term girlfriends and/or wives is “nagging.” According to Princeton’s WordNet nagging is defined as:
shrewish, nagging (continually complaining or faultfinding) “a shrewish wife”; “nagging parents”
Now, negativity aside, nagging, and the challenges women present us with are one of the biggest ways us guys grow. With that in mind here are the 5 reasons women nag:
5. They’re Assholes
Now, this isn’t a comprehensive list (not EVERY nag occurs for all 5 reasons), but sometimes the woman you’re with can turn out to be an asshole, a bitch, a jerk, insecure, and simply needs to hate (other people… including YOU… especially YOU) to make themselves feel better.
4. She No Longer Likes You
Sometimes it’s hard to swallow, but your relationship fades, dies, and your woman is no longer attracted to you. If your woman is nagging all the time, at meaningless bullshit, she wants out (but may not have the confidence to break away). She simply nags because inside she wants you to break it off with her.
3. Needs Communicating
Nagging, in certain situations can be examined as your woman’s communication of her wants/needs. Sometimes, as I’m sure you’re also familiar, it can be challenging to outright ask directly for some things. Not all people communicate the same way, or were raised with the same communication styles, so nagging can be a way for people to communicate their needs.
2. No Good Reason (relating to you)
There is an adage about fights have 90% to do with other stuff, things, events, problems outside your control, and 10% relating to what is happening right now. This can be the case with nagging as well. Sometimes, as I’m sure you do too, your woman/girlfriend/wife, just has a bad day, or is going through problems and experiences that trickle over into other aspects of your relationship.
1. They Want You To Be a Better Man
Nagging, when taken at face value may sometimes seem insane. An old girlfriend freaked out once when I didn’t offer some guests to our place something to drink. I didn’t know what was going on. It just didn’t make sense. But, when looked at from another perspective I needed to a) work on my social skills and b) be more observant of others’ needs and feelings. As David Deida suggests in his fantastic book “The Superior Man” don’t take nagging at face value, listen to this “advice” like you would listen to an oracle.
These are the best 5 reasons I could think of on why women nag. Although, by definition nagging has a negative connotation, I hope I’ve illustrated that it’s not always a bad thing. And it is our job to interpret which category, or categories, the nagging falls into and adjust our relationship accordingly.
If you have any comments or suggestions please comment below.
